MICHAEL RAY DE LOS ANGELES.
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Happy V-Day folks! Now, if you’re like me, and find everyone but you is being showered by candy-coated hearts and flowers, never fear! The pressures of Valentine’s Day can wreck havoc on even the most stable of relationships, so consider yourself lucky for dodging the cross hairs of Cupid’s bow and arrow. Still, just because you’re flying solo, doesn’t mean that you have to skip out on loving some one truly important, yourself.
Relationships can be a tricky thing and if you haven’t mastered the art of self-love, then you may find yourself getting involved in serial monogamy, which could easily become serial marriage (and divorce!) if you’re not careful. You may already know someone, it might even be you, that engages in this type of relationship; jumping from one person to another faster than you can bat an eye. Don’t fret though, we’re social by design and as the old adage goes, “there’s someone for everyone” and some people just need a little more time to figure out who that person is.
In the meanwhile, the best advice that I can give is “gnothi seauton” or “know thyself”. You can contribute more to a relationship through self awareness. After all, there’s no worse response to the question “what do you want to do tonight” than “I dunno, whatever you want to do.” The response is like nails on a chalkboard and can easily chip away at the foundation of a relationship, because nobody knows you better than you and the better that you know yourself, the more you can vocalize, suggest, and communicate what feels good, what works, and what you dislike.
Here are three simple ways to sweeten up Valentine’s Day
(And any other day too)
Cook a homemade dish.
There’s something satisfying about cooking up a nice homemade dish. If you’re a kitchen alchemist, then you may already know that certain foods can serve as aphrodisiacs, which is good news for you and your sweetie. Especially if you’re already in the mood for love, lust and luscious good times.
Not only does a good workout increase your heart rate, and improve your mood, but working out can help you build the foundation of a positive body image. You don’t have to become the next Mr. or Ms. Universe or land the cover of a body builder magazine– unless that’s your thing– but a good work out is essential for keeping the body at its optimum. A bonus is that regularly working out means that you’ll also be in good condition for your partner(s) when sex becomes an option.
Knowing your own love language is essential. If you experience love through gifts, and all your beloved does is tell you how amazing you look, then you may not feel the kind of love that you need. Remember you may both have different love languages and thus you may end up expressing your love differently. However, if you don’t know what makes you feel loved, then you may end up quite unhappy without knowing why.
Michael Ray is a writer, editor, and Generation Y shutterbug. California grown environmentalist and published photographer, “Say Avocado.”
You can find me across social media platforms (including Twitter, Soundcloud, Bonoboville, Instagram, and Youtube) with intersecting content focused on ecology, environmental activism, Literature, and California culture. I read and write about plant-based living, with recommended readings, audio broadcasts and short documentaries. I like appropriate technologies like solar system and home gardens.
In my non-writing life, I like painting, fashion, yoga, and set design. I’m a graduate of Humboldt State University with a BA in English Literature, and was a costumer for the world-famous Humboldt Circus 2012-13. I love Poesy, spoken word and was Poetry Division editor for The Toyon Literary Journal.
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